Dr. Gordon L. Patzer has devoted the last 30 years to investigating this unsettling phenomenon for both women and men, and how it touches every part of our lives.
Dr. Gordon L. Patzer says:
1. Physical stature
Yep, you knew this already: size matters. Height and weight are right on top of the list of things women notice. "Too much or too little of either immediately classifies the man as unattractive to women, and closes the door before less physically obviously features (such as confidence) can be determined," says Dr Patzer. Take heart though, the acceptable range is influenced by the woman's own height and weight.
No Cooking Clue says:
Physical statures are a visual perception brought on by advertising and TV shows. The prejudice caused is called height-ism and is a discrimination against man based on height. In principal it refers to discriminatory treatment against man whose height is not within the normal acceptable range of height in a population. The same goes for weight. The mental identification, organization and interpretation of these visuals in this case by woman, will form a skew perception of man. Physical attractiveness is an over rated trait. I rather would go for attractiveness alone which opens up more doors on further interactions. Over the last 30 years the media dictates, how we should look like and influencing our relationship with others, causing attractiveness stereo typing.
Dr. Gordon L. Patzer says:
2. Appearances and attractiveness
Yes, beauty is skin deep, but it's going to get women to explore what lies beneath. Attractiveness does include what you were born with, but your genes alone can't scuttle your chances. What really counts is what you do with your hair, clothes, grooming and basic hygiene. If you can't make the effort, women certainly are not going to work hard to learn more about you!
No Cooking Clue says:
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, literal meaning, the perception of beauty is subjective. Different people possess different standards of beauty and that indicates that beauty means something different to each individual. We all have different tastes. Again the media is guilty of stereo typing, prejudice and discrimination on how a man should look like. Clothing and grooming promotes positive self esteem but is highly subjected to trend. Young man often following these fashion styles to find their masculinity. Basic hygiene is a matter of education and is a cultural standard. However if a man wants to engage in a serious relationship with a woman he will make sure he looks at his utmost best.
Dr. Gordon L. Patzer says:
3. Smile
Once women are done assessing your overall build, women will look at your smile. "The ability to smile, particularly within the first few minutes of meeting, sends a welcoming, non-hostile signal to women," says Dr Patzer. There is one proviso though -- the smile must show off reasonably good-looking teeth. It's never too late to fix an appointment with the dentist!
No Cooking Clue says:
A woman is not a contractor; she doesn't evaluate the overall building sustainability of a man’s building material, she doesn't over see a construction site. There are two groups of eligible woman. Woman belonging to the first group are generally not interested to socialize with man outside their comfort zone hence they never going out alone, the more conservative types. Woman in the second group especially makes an effort to meet as much people as possible and making new friends with man as well as woman in a liberal way. It depends entirely what kind of woman a man is looking for. Both groups of woman have equal opportunities to meet up with the right man. Man with crooked teeth do marry as well.
Dr. Gordon L. Patzer says:
4. Humor
Another reason to show off those pearly whites! Women like men who have the ability to laugh. Even better, make the woman laugh. That instantly nets you bonus points!
No Cooking Clue says:
Smiling is the shortest route to laughing. The bonus points depends on if she smiles back at you, if not, you sit with a mouth full of pearly whites.
Dr. Gordon L. Patzer says:
5. Confidence
Women find confident men attractive. According to Dr Sameer Malhotra, head of psychiatry and psychotherapy department at Fortis Hospital in New Delhi, within the first few minutes of meeting, women will not only sass out your level of confidence, they will also interpret the vibes you give out and how you think. "Women notice how clear or decisive you are and whether you approach things positively." Just remember cockiness and arrogance is not the same as confidence!
No Cooking Clue says:
Confidence might be attractive for woman but they should be wary of false confidence as the abbreviation of a confident man is “con man”. If a man dates a woman for the first time, his confidence is at his lowest point. That does not mean the woman necessary thinks you are timid or unsure. The woman’s confidence is also not so self-assured. Small talk in the beginning will boost both confidences.
Dr. Gordon L. Patzer says:
6. Conversation
Men have successfully given womankind the impression of being strong and silent. So women aren't expecting you to have mad talking skills. All you've got to do hold her attention. "We know (scientifically) that the more or longer a woman gets to know a man, the more physically attractive he becomes in her mind," says Dr Patzer. Women are looking for someone to keep up the conversation -- so forget the one-liners, just be you!
No Cooking Clue says:
On the first date the conversation should be spontaneous and interactive. It doesn't matter if the man or woman, doing the most talking, as long as both holds each other’s attention. Women are great talkers and man tends to be listeners. Man never gave woman the impression that they are silent. Due to the fact that woman always talk a lot, there is usually nothing more for a man to say.
Content courtesy: Men's Life Today, India
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For Dr. Patzer.
Attitude Adjustment, not a girly drink
2 ounces white rum (I prefer moderately priced Bacardi Superior or, better yet, Matusulem Platino)
1 ounce of freshly squeezed lime juice
1/2 ounce simple syrup (equal parts sugar and water, dissolved).
Preparation: Combine ingredients in shaker. Add a generous amount of ice cubes and shake vigorously. Strain into chilled cocktail glass. Some folks like to garnish with a thin wedge or wheel of lime. I don’t think this brings much if anything to the drink.
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